Little Things

May 14, 2014 at 11:53 PM | Posted in Musings, Psychology | Leave a comment
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There’s a common saying that birds of the same feather flock together. In my case, that doesn’t always ring true. Generally, I hang out with people who share the same interests as me. My circle of friends are certainly those who I have things in common, whether in terms of interests or personality. But it’s interesting to note that my closest friends are in fact those who are the complete opposite of me. I differ greatly from their personalities. We even have different tastes in nearly about everything. And yet we blend well together somehow. We understand each other despite the fact that we have different perspectives and values in life.

But there’s also one thing that binds me with my other friends. There’s a piece of me in each of them. I see myself in them one way or another, even if it’s just the smallest detail. These little things might be trivial for some people, but for me they make up an entire character to become my collective whole.

Tip of the Iceberg

April 28, 2014 at 11:32 PM | Posted in Musings, Psychology | Leave a comment
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Three recent incidents forced me to revisit once again the common misperception that other people have about me. For starters, a new friend of mine confessed that when she first met me, she thought that I was this quiet and demure type of person. Then there was this guy who, when I happened to mention that I listen to hip-hop music, told me that I don’t look like the type who would listen to hip-hop music. I almost laughed at that but I think I raised my eyebrows instead. Recently, another woman told me practically the same thing as my new friend.

If looks are the only basis for judging a person, then I guess I’d fail miserably. I get that other people have this common misperception of me. I wear glasses and dress a bit like Rory Gilmore with an odd mixture of Daria and Blair Waldorf – if you get the drift. I am also an introvert who cherishes solitude and likes to brood once in a while (It’s why I became a writer, duh.). Personality-wise, I have similarities with Temperance Brennan. But my close friends know that I’m so much more than meets the eye. Like what I’ve said before, what you see isn’t necessarily what you get.

For instance, people would always get surprised whenever they found out that I have a tattoo (not a tiny one, mind you) and have a wild side. Like it’s a big deal. I have varying taste in music as well. I listen to rock, hip-hop, rap metal, techno/club, pop, R & B, and more. I can be a mean girl once in a while, too.

Some people like to view the world and other people in black and white. I don’t. I’m not necessarily white, but I’m not black either. I am a palette with varying shades.

So True

January 21, 2009 at 3:25 PM | Posted in Musings | 2 Comments
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I got this from MSN Astrology. I’m an Aquarian and this article speaks a lot about my personality. Practically all (OK, maybe not everything, haha!) the things mentioned in this article are applicable to me. (Underlined portions are mine.)

Fun Facts: Aquarius

Aquarians present themselves in one of two ways. One on hand, you’ll see someone who is shy and quiet. On the other, an Aquarius can be boisterous, eccentric, and energetic. Both are deep thinkers with a love of helping others. Highly intellectual, this is a fiercely independent sign that prizes intuition tempered with logic. Both personality types have an uncanny ability to see both sides of an argument without prejudice, making them excellent problem solvers. While very much attuned to the energies around them, Aquarians have a deep need to take time out alone and away to rejuvenate themselves. The keyword for this sign is imagination. The Aquarian can see a world of possibilities even when there appears to be none.

Friends and Family

Even though Aquarians are great with groups of people, it takes a bit when it comes to making close friends. Deeply sensitive and cautious, closeness means vulnerability to an Aquarius, and this is not something to be taken lightly. Aquarians’ direct, no-nonsense approach in combination with their strong values can make it challenging to get to know the inner person. Yet those who are able to do so will discover a friendship that lasts through the years. An Aquarius will go the distance for a loved one to the point of self-sacrifice if necessary. They look for creativity, intellect, and honesty in their friends. When it comes to family, the expectations are no less. Although dedicated to a sense of duty to relatives, the Aquarius isn’t one for developing close bonds unless the same qualities they expect in their friendships are there.

Career and Money

Aquarians bring enthusiasm to the work they do, especially when it involves expression. They have an exceptionally high ability to put their imaginative qualities to the task and to think outside the box. Careers that allow for concept development or demonstration can suit this sign well. I know is the key phrase for the Aquarius. High intellect combined with an Aquarius’ willingness to share their talents inspires many who work in the same environment. Being visionary types, Aquarians love to engage in careers that aim to benefit humankind in the long-run.

When it comes to money, this sign really has a knack for keeping a healthy balance between having the things that they need and putting money away. When they are out shopping, the shiny, glittery, and extravagant will catch their attention even though their homes are generally decorated with great taste. It’s not uncommon to find the Aquarius turning heads dressed in daring, brightly colored outfits. Most are well-attuned to their individual sense of style and aren’t afraid to show it.

Careers that suit the Aquarius are acting, writing, teaching, photography, or piloting. The best environment is one that gives the freedom to tackle the task without a lot of strict guidelines. The Aquarius is unconventional, and given the opportunity to show their true talents, they can perform amazing feats.

Love and Sex

Intellectual stimulation is by far the greatest aphrodisiac for the Aquarian. There’s nothing like a lively chat rich in culture and future possibilities to get this sign going. When it comes to love, people best suited are those that are not thrown off by Aquarian frankness. Open, communicative, imaginative, and willing to risk are all qualities that blend well with this sign’s perspective on life. Honesty and sincerity are essential for anyone seeking a long-term connection to this dynamic personality.

Likes
A good cause, being part of a club, scientific ideas, fun with friends, a good listener

Dislikes
Dull or boring situations, people who disagree with them

Strengths
Progressive, original, humanitarian, independent

Weaknesses
Runs from emotional expression, uncompromising, temperamental, aloof

Best Environment
Any gathering of people to exchange ideas

Hot or Cold?

January 16, 2009 at 5:13 PM | Posted in Musings | Leave a comment
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Those who don’t know me really well might automatically assume that I’m a cold, unfeeling person once they meet me. Some might have regarded me as aloof and unapproachable. I know for a fact that my tendency to keep quiet most of the time has thrown off some people. And though I don’t necessarily put myself out there, it doesn’t mean that I’m cold-hearted. I’ve always been the shy type and I’m not a bubbly, chatty person. I can be moody sometimes, brooding even. But once you get me to talk on topics I like, I can be very animated. I don’t show my emotions most of the time but that doesn’t mean I don’t care. I do care about the things that matter to me. In fact, I can be very passionate about the things I believe in. I’m just not that showy or verbal about my feelings. Perhaps that is why I became a writer. Sometimes it’s just better for me to put it in writing than actually say it. That’s me.

Misinterpretations and Assumptions

April 30, 2008 at 10:30 AM | Posted in Musings | Leave a comment
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Most people have this impression of me being sharp-tongued and testy, which in fact I’m not. And it’s not because of the way I behave towards them. Hell, I’m pretty nice by nature. But it’s mainly because of the way I speak. Sometimes I speak with a hard tone that others misconstrued as being “angry.” But in truth, that is just how I and most of my family speak — with a tone that sounds angry but not really.

And because of this, there are times when I get misinterpreted by others, especially by new acquaintances. A simple, well-meaning statement I make among friends and colleagues would already sound offensive to some. I don’t mean to be rude or anything like that; it’s just that others find my frankness and tone of voice as offensive. So sometimes I still have to explain myself further to be understood correctly.

People close to me are already used to the way I speak so for them, the things I say don’t mean that I’m being argumentative or testy. In fact, they just laugh off some of the things I say and regard them as part of being typically me.

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