Little Things

May 14, 2014 at 11:53 PM | Posted in Musings, Psychology | Leave a comment
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There’s a common saying that birds of the same feather flock together. In my case, that doesn’t always ring true. Generally, I hang out with people who share the same interests as me. My circle of friends are certainly those who I have things in common, whether in terms of interests or personality. But it’s interesting to note that my closest friends are in fact those who are the complete opposite of me. I differ greatly from their personalities. We even have different tastes in nearly about everything. And yet we blend well together somehow. We understand each other despite the fact that we have different perspectives and values in life.

But there’s also one thing that binds me with my other friends. There’s a piece of me in each of them. I see myself in them one way or another, even if it’s just the smallest detail. These little things might be trivial for some people, but for me they make up an entire character to become my collective whole.

A friend in need is a friend indeed?

June 15, 2007 at 5:40 PM | Posted in Musings | Leave a comment
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When it comes to doing favors for a friend, how far would you go? In my case, I usually (but not always!) have trouble saying no to a friend, specifically when it comes to lending money. Of course, I usually only lend money to close friends and not acquaintances. But anyway, just yesterday, a close friend of mine asked me if she could borrow a large sum of money from me. She explained her situation and promised me that she’ll give my money back by next week. At first, I was really reluctant because she borrowed money from me before and she wasn’t able to pay back the whole amount. I swore to myself that I wouldn’t do it again – that enough is enough. But here I am again, giving in to her request. I tried refusing her at first but eventually I caved in. But this time, I made her promise that she’ll pay me back as soon as she gets the money next week. I also said to myself that this would be the last time that I’ll lend a large sum of money to a friend.

Now I feel discomfited and mentally kicking myself for caving in. How could I let it happen again? But then again, how could I refuse a friend in need? The thing is, I already had two very unpleasant experiences lending money to a close friend. One friendship was broken as a result and I kept telling myself not to give in again next time.

The thing is, it’s okay for me to lend money to a close friend as long as he or she pays me back as promised and the money is used for emergency purposes. I just don’t want my friends to make this a habit because sometimes I feel that I’m just being used and taken for granted. I just wish I have the courage to say no to a friend next time.

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