Tags: marriage, singlehood
Just after the New Year, I attended an old friend’s wedding when I was in Bicol for the holidays. She’s one of my friends in college and our barkada were all invited to the wedding. The five of us were pretty close back when we were in college. And almost all of us were present at each other’s wedding. Now that my friend was the fourth one in the group to get married, I am the only one still unattached. Yup, I’m the last one standing.
So of course being the only remaining single in the group, I got a lot of teasings and proddings from them. They kept insisting that I should get married soon. They practically gave me a deadline. They said that I should get married by June this year. One of them is giving birth early this year so they said it would be perfect if I can get married after her baby comes.
I love my friends, but it can be exasperating sometimes when they and other people pressure me to get married. They have a traditional view on marriage and family. But I am not traditional. I am unconventional. I’m not like most women. Being a product of a broken family, I don’t view marriage in rose-colored glasses. If divorce is legal in the Philippines, my parents would have been divorced a long time ago. So yes, I’m not in a hurry to get married.
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Actually I have mixed feelings about marriage. On one hand, I’m not sure if I’m the marrying kind. I can’t even imagine myself in a wedding dress, much less walk down the aisle. But on the other hand, it would be nice to have a long-term companion.
I’ve always been liberated for most of my life and I value my independence greatly. Now unless there’s a guy out there who can sweep me off my feet and completely change my mind, I still remain happily unattached.
As I move forward this 2015 with hope and determination, I’d like to take a few moments to look back and review the past year. Last year definitely had its ups and downs for me. But there were also a few notable experiences that made 2014 a memorable one for me. Here are just a few highlights from 2014:
- I decided to step out of my comfort zone. I made a major life-changing decision that was both risky and challenging and involved a lot of patience. Right now I’m still pushing through with this decision in the hopes that it will help me grow as a person.
- I embarked on a project that would further test my capabilities as an independent person. This project has been in the pipeline since 2013 and it was only late last year that I finally took the plunge.
- I reconnected with family I hadn’t seen in a long time. My uncle who’s an OFW came home from abroad last year and I was able to spend some time with him and the rest of my family during his short stay in Manila.
- I had the opportunity to travel someplace I’ve never been. I went to Cagayan de Oro and stayed there for over a week. Aside from spending unforgettable days there, my stay in CDO also helped me see the region in a new light.
- I had a brush with a Hollywood celebrity. Considering that a lot of Hollywood celebrities already visited the Philippines, I’ve never been the one who would go out of the way to see or meet them, much less stalk them. But that changed when the star of one of my favorite shows on TV visited the country. I’m a big fan of Suits and Gabriel Macht so of course I went kinda crazy when he came here to do charity work. I actually saw him in person during his stay and I will never forget the big smile on his face when me, my sister and a couple of friends were practically screaming and hyperventilating at the sight of him.
There were a few more incidents that happened in 2014 that I consider to be turning points in my life but I won’t elaborate on them as they’re very private and not for public consumption. Let’s just say that they were life lessons for me that I need to reflect on.